Have you ever been so hungry that you become hangry? You know the feeling I’m talking about. You become irritable, short-tempered, and tired all because you have not had something to eat. I mean, I literally cannot think clearly when I am starving.
When I’m out and about, and hunger sets in, I usually grab the first thing I see, even if it’s not exactly what I want. I may reach for chips or the bread basket on the table, knowing those food selections don’t agree with my goals or waistline. My desperation forces me to make concessions and divert from my plan. In the back of my mind, I know that I will eventually have to pay the price.
Humans have physical needs that, if gone unmet, cause us to become unhealthy and unable to sustain life. Many of us are not walking around physically hungry; we are emotionally starving. We are in relationships with people who leave us malnourished and pollute our spaces with toxicity. We think we are suffering from hunger, but really, we are in dire need of love and connection.
Our brains are wired for connection. It is the way we feel loved, seen, protected and heard. If we lack a deeper connection, we begin to find ways to cope. Our coping mechanisms can show up in the form of overeating, drinking heavily, unfulfilling sexual relationships, shopping, and countless others. Trust me, all of them were on my list.
Let’s get clear: mini pleasures will never make you whole. Until you confront the deep-rooted hurt and pain of your life, you will continue to rationalize the irrational. You will treat the symptoms but never cure the illness.
Happiness is an inside job. Stop looking for outside sources to feed what should be fueled from within. Houses, cars, shoes, and cocktails may seem cool for the Gram, but those things will never satisfy your deeper hunger.
Feed your inner spirit by getting quiet and spending time alone the Creator. Your best connection is made with the Divine in the silence. The more time you spend connecting with God, you will get to know yourself and form a deeper relationship with others around you.
Digging up emotional roots is painful, but it is essential to overcoming hunger. This week my prayer is that you stop grabbing the first thing you see and stop picking the first option. There is more than enough healthy soul food to go around.